With aging comes loss, our Ken Potts says, but focusing on our health and staying involved with others can help us cope.
One of the surprises for me when I started as a counselor 40 years ago was hearing from some of my clients just how hard growing old can be.
I’m not just talking about the physical part — the aches and pains and encroaching disabilities we inevitably experience as we age. What really struck me was how emotionally difficult aging often is.
When we move in to our late 40s and beyond, our lives increasingly involve loss. We start losing our hair, our waist lines, our ability to have children, our muscle tone, our endurance, our eyesight, our agility, our memory and so on. If we’ve raised children, this is the time when we are likely to start “losing” our kids to adulthood. We increasingly lose friends and family to death. Even our dreams of success often have to be reined in — or even let loose — as we confront the limited time, opportunity and energy we have left (and the seemingly unlimited time, opportunity and energy the generations behind us seem to have).